Tuesday, December 19, 2017

The Thorns Are Meant to Grow Us

2017 has been an interesting year, to say the least. There have been some tough losses followed by hot tears, love’s been birthed, reunions have taken place, great laughs have been shared, and difficult decisions have been made. All in all, life is full of ups and downs, and in order to grow, we must go through the hills and valleys of life; otherwise, we remain stagnant and never really get to know what we’re made of.

Sitting here less than two weeks from 2018, I, for one, am sobered by what I’ve learned about myself this year. I’ve been impressed by the growth I’ve made, in some areas of my life. I’ve stretched myself and done things I’ve only dreamt of doing and achieving. In that, I’ve learned to trust my dreams and goals with others who believe in me. Those who kept me on track and made sure that even when I spoke in fear or doubt, I caught myself, didn’t give up and kept going. I can’t even utter words that would adequately convey the appreciation I have for these few but dear ones.

Then I remember those moments where I sat in my closet, in the dark, where I cried out of desperation and hopelessness, wanting an answer from God. In those moments, I felt alone, forgotten, and like I was a “sinner in the hands of an angry God”. I felt the thorns, purging me of my weaknesses, bitterness, and impure heart. I felt the pain of birthing the wrongs I’d done, seeing them face-to-face and not recognizing myself afterward. I’ve been down to my last, felt punched in the stomach, but lifted back up by His everlasting and loving arms.

This year, I’ve looked in the eyes of my children and experienced the love Christ must have for us when we’re hurt, have lied, or are feeling extreme pain as a result of a decision we made even after being advised to be careful. I’ve had to be the disciplinarian, hard as it has been in many situations, to ensure they think twice before repeating the painful actions. I’ve held them close, because they’ve been broken by things I may find trivial but they feel will end their world. I’ve watched as they’ve lied right to my face without them realizing I was right there watching from a distance the entire time and just wish they’d be straight up with me. As a human, can I truly say I know the heart and mind of God? Definitely not, but I’ve had a glimpse of it and tasted a bit of it. Gosh, how His heart must ache and long for us.


I’m leaving 2017 with a better understanding of who and Whose I am and trusting God that the ugly parts of me remain here. My daily reflections will continue, because in order to become better, we must be truthful with ourselves and truly want to be better. I bid farewell to 2017 with a slight longing but ready for a fresh and beautiful start where I don’t snip off my wings, fear jumping, or doubt myself and the things that have been put in my heart to affect lives.