You're Enough

Women are inundated with so much garbage on a daily basis. I know I’ve touched on this before, but it’s a problem that will exist, possibly forever.  It just breaks my heart that so many women, both single and married, whether they are mothers or not, suffer so much due to their images of what their bodies should look like. Women with curves long for more svelte figures, while women with svelte figures continue to work hard to maintain their figures or lose more weight to be closer to a size zero.

The things we can’t fix with our bodies, we grudgingly try to embrace, or in many cases, we just give up trying. Whether it’s dyeing our hair, wearing heels that kill our feet to get that perfect arch, wearing excessive make-up, or seeking out the closest thing we can to Spanx, we do our best to cover up our flaws, or at least get the attention off them. We can’t really stand the woman we see in the mirror, so we mask her however we feel best, trying hard not to lose ourselves in the process.

I’m not big on rap in general, but recently, I heard a song in passing that caught my attention. I googled the lyrics, then youtubed it. The lyrics that did it for me were: 

No need to fix what God already put his paint brush on…

So all you see is all you’re lacking…

What’s real it’s something that the eyes can’t see that hands can’t touch…and that’s you. 

(“Crooked Smile” by J. Cole)

Whether you’re a fourth trimester mom or working hard to achieve the figures of the ladies on the US Body Issue, you have to remember, to be or remain attractive to anyone, including yourself, you have to be content with the woman you are. If you’re unhealthily overweight, check your diet, move around some more. If you’re underweight, seek help to get to a healthy you. If you’re in-between and unhappy, tone what you’ve got.

The man who is dissatisfied with what you look like doesn’t deserve you. If he cannot see past the exterior that can be changed by support, love, patience, and hard work, he isn’t for you.  Keep in mind: no matter where you are on your body journey, the beauty you are, in whatever shape or size you come in…you’re enough.